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Many Ways To Select The Most Excellent Self Help and Affirmations Books: A Beneficial Article January 22, 2012

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As the new year has come and went, people are out there looking for a few good best self help books. Choosing excellent self help books can be sticky. There are many products for sale, providing solutions to a variety of problems. Clearly most all people throughout the world want to become better in a mulitple areas, and will search for self help books to deal with these problems.

One manner to transform yourself is by buying a book on affirmations. An affirmation is a saying of intention concerning what you desire to be true. There are a few fine affirmations books out there, and I have read a book or two about them. However, most every affirmations book I have digested gives advice that is basically incorrect, and I will demonstrate why. Below I will describe how to select the best self help books possible. I am also going to address the topic of an affirmations book, since among all of topics these days, affirmations appear to be fairly popular.

1. Choose a Book That Challenges You
Most people go online, or enter that book store, and right away seek out a book that already agrees with their manner of thinking. In other words, they select a book that seems to “fit” them. The problem is that it is their current way of thinking that has gotten them into their immediate situation. In other words, most all people seek out books that essentially discourage change. I suggest picking a book that you are sure will challenge you, instead of choosing one that merely reinforces your current beliefs.

Two. Choose a pertinent Affirmations Book
Most affirmations books provide bad advice. They suggest composing an affirmation as if you have already received it, much like “I fit into my bikini”. The main problem is that your brain knows better, and has issues really accepting them at a subconscious level. So while you may be repeating them such as this, your brain isn’t rewiring. Luckily there are some excellent books out there that get it right, but most all do not. So choose your affirmations book sensibly!

Three. Check Out The Reviews For The Book
The web makes it simple for you to see what other folks consider about a book or a book’s philosophy. A few reviews will be positive and very happy, and others will be negative and maybe even mean. I suggest going through both all the reviews and seeing if a book is up your alley. Bear in mind that some people may review a book negatively, but their negative reason might be why you might actually appreciate the book. One reviewer may say a book is too short, but you might be looking to read a more brief at the current moment. Definitely have a look at what other people are saying!

4. Make Certain You Finish It and Do What It Says
This may sound weird, but most all individuals never finish the books they begin. A good example is when I read about the supplement Green Tea a few decades ago, when it was trendy. I started using it, and it still works for me. Most people heard about it, read a few pages concerning it, and quit. They never followed through. You absolutely have to give the advice in the book enough time to truly work, and by golly, read the book itself. Granted, a few books might not be highly good, and you might not want to finish these, but don’t neglect a book simply because you are lazy. Also, give a topic an opportunity. A lot of self-help techniques require some time and effort. Don’t think you can just read a book, try something once, and presto, it works. Allow each technique the period it requires.

If you follow these ideas you will find the appropriate self help books and that appropriate affirmations book. Don’t be like most people: find a great book and follow through with its ideas. Change your life!

The essayist suggests using the tools provided here when looking up and buying the right books.


Coasting September 29, 2007

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The Magnum

A few years ago, while my dad was still working for IBM, they had a IBM club gathering at Cedar Point, which is an amusement park in Northern Ohio halfway between Cleveland and Toledo.  At that time they had just opened the Magnum, which they touted as the world’s tallest and fastest roller coaster.  I believe it went up 6000 feet and passed the speed of light for a few seconds.  My facts may be a little off on the specs of that particular ride.

I was only 11 at the time, and was privileged to be hanging out with my brother Mark the whole day. He is my older brother, and so the duty fell to him to try and get me on all the roller coasters.  We arrived at the park, and among all the different roller coasters, the Magnum shot way beyond all the others.  I believe that its summit was surrounded by clouds, and only visible with a high powered telescope, or at least that is how it seemed at the time.

My brother Mark pointed at the monster of a roller coaster and he said, “we are going to ride that one.”  To which I promptly responded, “I would rather go to the Happy Friar and get some french fries.”  (The Happy Friar is located near the Gemini if you are ever there- one of those places that puts french fries in a cup and serves them with vinegar.  Heaven my friends.  Heaven.)

Mark was a smart guy though- he took me on the smallest coaster first, the Blue Streak.  It is a rickety looking thing just past the entrance, and is still the oldest coaster they have in the park.  It was a wooden coaster, so part of the fun was that it violently shook you every inch.  Nothing says good fun like a numb back and legs.  When I look back on things, I would wager that the Magnum, with all of its steel and advanced design, was probably safer than the Blue Streak.

From there we worked our way up to the Iron Dragon, the Gemini, the Corkscrew etc etc.  Each time I rode a bigger fast coaster, it seemed that I built more confidence.

Then it was time.

Mark looked at me and said, it’s time to ride the Magnum. I looked at him and the idea of french fries appeared back in my mind.  We got in the line though, and we waited the obligatory hour and a half for a 4 minute ride. Each step brought us closer to that looming network of steel and cables.

We got to the loading dock and my brother got into the car first, probably so I wouldn’t just walk through.  We had invested quite some time standing in line, and he wasn’t about to let me chicken out right at the end.  He knew me too well.

The bar came down.  That was it.  I was trapped.  I realized my doom, and as the train clanked up the first giant hill I started to cry.  How embarrasing!  The guy behind me started to make fun of me.  But don’t worry- he got his.

I looked around and there was the ominous clank clank clank that you always hear when you are being pulled up that first hill.  Actually, that is a good thing because that means the emergency breaks are working, in case you didn’t know that.

I looked down and saw a seagull flying below us.  I believe I saw Sputnik we were so high.  Then that first hill- the drop- my tears turned to cries of exhilaration as we approached mach 7.  It was a blast indeed!  I screamed and yelled, and before we knew it the ride was over and I was shouting to my brother how I wanted to do it again!  It was a pretty neat feeling.

Oh yea, and that guy that was behind me- scared the heck out of him.  He was crying upon the return and he must have been 16 or 17.  Told you he got his.

Life works the same way.  There is a three fold lesson to be learned here.  One I suppose you could call a circle of achievement.  Achievement builds confidence, and confidence allows us to achieve more.  As I ascended the ranks of roller coasters I did get more confidence.  There was no way that I had the confidence to ride that roller coaster at the beginning of the morning, but I had built up just enough by the end of the day to at least attempt it.

Second, we achieve goals in increments.  The person that begins New Years saying that they are going to lose 50 pounds is probably not going to lose any.  It is too big of a task, much like that roller coaster was for me at the beginning of the day.  The person that says that they are going to lose 1 lb this week no matter what is likely to do it.  I have a philosophy of following shortter daily goals.  Sometimes I feel like I am spinning my wheels, but when I look back and see the collective progress in something I realize how far I had come.  In terms of the roller coasters, the Blue Streak seemed like an ant hill compared to the Magnum by the end.  It is always neat to see where we have been when we don’t think we are going anywhere.

Finally, anticipation can be our worst enemy.  The actual event of the rollar coaster was a fun one.  The anticipation was what was causing me the fear.  I have avoided a lot of things in my life because the anticipation of a particular event causes me fear and anxiety.  There are ways to work through that, and that fear and anxiety should not be a determining factor in our decisions.  Sometimes you just have to live with it and push through.  Usually the actual event isn’t as bad as the anticipation might make it seem.  Certainly my first ride on the Magnum was more of a harrowing experience WHILE I WAS IN LINE!

After all that was said and done, Mark and I walked over the Happy Friar- and ate some vinegar covered french fries.  Those WERE as good as I anticipated!

Running on cobblestone August 31, 2007

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So a few months ago I took up running in order to prepare for the Columbus Half Marathon which was April 14th of 2007.

 Turns out I hated running.

 I went ahead and ran anyway, starting off slowly, one mile at a time.  Then I added two miles and so until until the week of the half marathon.  The marathon itself was cold and somewhat rainy (although Marshall McPeek, our local weatherman and Dungeon and Dragon’s champ, was wrong about how cold and wet it was going to be.)  Despite that, it was one of the best things that I have ever done with my life.  I cant believe I ran, let alone 13 or so miles!

 Turns out I like running.

 So it is something that I have continued throughout these last few months.  I even ran and ran during my 30 days of silent retreat in Morristown New Jersey.  What a great way to get to know that delightful city.

 Now that I am back in Columbus I am running through her streets, and find that the cobblestones in some parts of the city are presenting a new challenge for me… they are certainly not the smooth sidewalks and paths that I am used to running in these past few months.  I have to watch and compensate with every step that I take while running, but it keeps me more aware and alert at every step too.  I am not an experienced runner but I am sure that running on cobblestones is probably not the best thing to do, but it is a great analogy for those times and parts of our life in which the path may not seem as smooth as we have been used to in the past.  During these times we have to think about every step, the big ones and the little ones, as well as looking ahead to see what might be in front of us.  It certainly presents a new and exciting challenge than we have had before!  Realistically though, whether running on smooth ground or cobblestones or mud or whatever, the way to the finishline, that is, whatever personal goal we are currently trying to achieve remains the same: one cautious step at a time.  Short term, easily attainable goals!  One step at a time!!!